Despite the best intentions, we all often fail to have intentional conversations with our spouse about our relationship and goals.
To help with that, we’ve created a Marriage Check-in Guide to help couples have intentional conversations about their relationship. It’s designed to be done monthly (the questions focus on “last month” and “next month”) but may work better bi-monthly or quarterly for some couples.
Several couples in our church have already started using it. Here is what they have to say about it:
Scott and Betty Miles
It is so easy to get caught up in our own routines that it is easy to forget to have meaningful conversations outside of our schedules and to-do lists. It was very helpful to have a guideline of intentional topics to discuss. The guide is focused on improving personal life and marriage, which is worth taking regular time and attention.
Doing this monthly seems like a great timeline and would be helpful to discuss things that we’d otherwise push off. We don’t currently go out on dates that often, but we can also go through this list after the kids go to bed. 30 minutes uninterrupted may be sufficient. Most people can probably squeeze in time for this on any given day
We would absoltutely recommend that other couples do this.
Darren and Sarah Johnson
We both thought this guide was very useful in facilitating conversation. It felt a little strange at first being somewhat formal but it ended up being very helpful. We observed there were pretty broad questions which allowed our conversations quite a bit of freedom to go in lots of directions.
It encourages intentionality which is so hard to do with kids. Gives more of a purpose and plan for a date night. It’s hard to think about questions that would facilitate good conversation. Sometimes it’s hard to know how to get those conversations started. I also liked how it makes you think introspectively and not just about the relationship.
Overall, very helpful and we will definitely use again. Thank you!!
Dax and Marissa Miller
It was nice to have guided questions and things to specifically talk about. We liked that it focused on personal responsibility and our relationship and not the kids or family life.
We would absolutely recommend that other couples do this. It was a really helpful experience.
Mark and Lindsey Mulnix
We thought it was a great exercise in total. We especially thought the “what are you proud of” question was excellent. It gave us an opportunity to celebrate together. So often these types of exercises are designed to focus on what was wrong. We also liked that it directed our thoughts to an action plan for the next month.
We would recommend this for most couples.